I have a difficult time with extended family, due in part to there being so little communication amongst us.
And, to me, that begs the question: How did things get to where they are today?
Well, I think to some degree, they have always been like this – which is not encouraging.
My thoughts are that the modeling of relationships begins with parents, and aunts and uncles – as they are the older, more wiser ones.
But, what I’ve found (at least in my family) is that those people just don’t seem to care. For them, it’s kind of like, “out of sight, out of mind.”
As for me, I have reached out a number of times to various family members in an effort to strengthen ties.
Unfortunately, no one seems to want a relationship.
Thus, I have been forced to spend time, strengthening bonds with (mainly) old friends.
The funny thing about family vs. friends, is that you don’t pick your family, but you do pick your friends!
And, that often suggests healthier connections in a lot of respects.
So, when there’s no communication with family and you’ve reach the end of your willingness to continue to try with family, what do you do? What would you do? Or, what have you done?